Dating brother in law
So you’re left behind, looking at him on Facebook in full clown-face, spraying his buddy with Faygo.
No wonder you want to put his personal effects onto the street.
Dear Prudence, I’ve been dating a decent guy for two years now, but I’ve always been a little sensitive to the fact that there are really no “firsts” or “onlys” left for people our age.
We’re experienced people—I’m 44 and he’s 46—so I can’t be his first or only sexual partner, wife, mother of his child, etc.
They and some other groups around the world have followed the practice of sororate marriage, in which a widower marries the sister of his late wife.
(It’s a variation of the much more widespread tradition of levirate marriage—commanded in Deuteronomy—where a widow marries her late husband’s brother.) You, your sister-in-law, and her parents all suffered a sudden and grievous loss.
But neither of you should feel you need to justify yourselves or that you’ve crossed some boundary.
Your late wife’s parents must live with a different kind of pain.
However, I’ve been secretly squirreling money away to someday get us there.
I’ve been desperately holding on to this as our chance at having not just a “first” but also an “only” experience.
My boyfriend is currently on a trip with a buddy of his and at the last minute they decided to go to the special place! I just want to put his stuff outside for him to collect when he gets back.
I know it’s not his fault, but I have nothing left to give.